The decision to end a marriage is always a tough one, and it’s likely that you’ll be faced with some difficult situations. So, we’ve put together a list of tips to help you handle those difficult situations.
Children and Divorce
If you have children, it may be difficult for them to cope. Without a doubt, divorce has a big impact on children. Often, they are overwhelmed with feelings of fear and sadness. And, depending on the age of your children, they may even feel that the divorce is their fault. Be sure to talk with your children early on about the divorce and encourage them to talk about their feelings. Maintaining an open dialogue will help them express their feelings and give them both the freedom and security to ask questions that are on their mind. While getting a divorce is often an emotional roller-coaster, it’s important that you avoid badmouthing your spouse during the process. It’s best for the kids if you keep your emotions in check before, during and after the divorce. Let your kids know who will have primary custody and make sure each one has a comfortable space to live in at both homes. Taking all of these steps will better enable your children to cope with the divorce.
Expectations and Reality
You married your spouse and will have to work through a divorce with some compromise. Don’t expect to have everything your way, even though you’re upset or feel your spouse was unfair. Florida is a no-fault divorce state, and when it comes to dividing property, working out a parenting plan and spousal support the law and judge’s ruling will prevail. Generally, property acquired during the marriage is divided 50/50 regardless of whose name it’s in. Your spouse may even be entitled to 50 percent of the value of a business. While you can assert your position, be sure to keep it real.
Minimizing the Pain of Divorce
Divorce is painful, and it’s wise to get a comfortable outlet in order to minimize the pain. You’re not alone. Turn to family and friends for emotional support during this difficult time. Set up a plan to rebuild yourself and your future. We always advise clients to separate the pain from the facts and the law. Be reasonable and logical and let your divorce attorney guide you through the process. Remember, “This too shall pass.”